If you’re thirsty, it makes sense to fill up a cup of water near the top. If you keep pouring though, it spills and you have to clean up the mess. Overthinking is the same. Self reflection on events is useful, but know when to stop so you don’t work yourself into a frenzy.
COMPARING YOURSELF TO OTHERS
Comparison is the thief of joy. Remember that.
Identity the things you could do that would make your life better: working out, preparing meals in advance, potentially meeting a new friend for coffee etc and then condition yourselves to do what you need to do, regardless of how you feel. In our experience, the thought of doing something is normally worse than the actual thing itself, so just do it.
FOCUSING ON WHAT YOU CAN’T CONTROL
If you’re not happy with a particular part of your life and you can do something about it, you don’t have a problem, you have an inconvenience. If there’s nothing you can do to change it, then worrying about is a fruitless endeavour. Practise the art of ‘letting go’
The world is a hard enough place without you beating yourself up for not looking a certain way, having a particular thing or not being where you want to be. So ease up on yourself. Or if you need some tough love, remember: if you’re not happy with where you are, you can move. You’re not a tree
In conclusion, create positive habits, keep pushing in the right direction. Cut loose the habits that bring you down.